Do You Control The Conversation Or Just Dominate It?

Control is good; dominate not so much?

When you control the conversation you manage it in such a way that you guide your client to discuss what is most important to him. That’s good, isn’t it?  This ultimately allows you to present a solution to his needs.  You do this by asking good questions.  

When you dominate the conversation, you generally talk too much.  A lot of the time your prospect or client is politely waiting for you to stop or at least pause, so he can state an excuse to end the meeting. Some of you know what I mean, don’t you?  

One of the best ways to control the conversation is to use a tool that I call “Say It/Ask It.”  “Say It/Ask It” simply means that after you say something important to your client or  prospect, you follow with a brief question to maintain his involvement and get his feedback.  This way you continue to keep him engaged and interested and simultaneously get the information you need to move your sale forward.  Even if he doesn’t answer your question out loud, he is certainly thinking about it, isn’t he?

If You’ve been paying attention to the preceding, you’ve already realized that I’ve been utilizing “Say It/Ask It” all along.

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What do you say after you say “Hello”?

When I first started in sales, my manager at New York Telephone instructed us to find something in the prospect’s or customer’s office that we could compliment. That could be a painting on the wall or an object on the executive’s desk, or an article of furniture in his office. I soon learned that wasn’t a great idea when I said how much I liked a particular painting on the wall across rom his desk. He replied, “It’s only there because my wife picked it out and I hate it.”

Through the years, I learned a much better approach that always got me off to a good start. It required a bit of research, however, in order to be effective. Nowadays, it’s easy enough to learn something about almost everyone, just by looking her or him up in LinkedIn or Facebook or Twitter, or going to the company website to learn something about her company.

Once you have learned something about the company or the person, you can easily use the You/I tool. This is simply starting out by saying something about the other person or her company, then adding something relevant about yourself.

Examples are:
“Your company has an excellent reputation as direct marketers.”
“I specialize in telemarketing myself and there may be a good fit for us to work together.”

“You have a great reputation as a man of integrity.”
“And my clients tell me they can rely on me keeping my word.”

“Your company has a great track record for being profitable.”
“That’s great because I love to work with successful companies.”

Using the “You/I” easily allows you to lead into some good probing questions.

If you to start out with “small talk” for a minute or two, that’s fine. Just be sure you start the business conversation with an appropriate “You/I.” Everyone likes to think the other person has heard some good things about him, right?

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The Best Sale I Ever Made

The best sale I ever made was not the biggest, nor was it the largest commission I ever received. Actually, I received no commission at all. No, the best sale was one I made when I was training a salesman who represented one of my clients, selling a line of private security systems – burglar alarms.

I was on a training call with the company’s only salesman, Jerry. Jerry had been with the company for several months and the owner was concerned that Jerry was barely making a living, let alone making his quota. So I was hired to find out where Jerry was lacking and to correct it. The reason this was the best sale I ever made is that I made it to demonstrate to another sales person what could be done instead of quitting.

During the first 30 minutes of the sales call, I sat quietly while Jerry went through his opening remarks and then asked some good questions of the couple who lived in this comfortable, if small, home together. The object of his questions was to determine if there were any items of value in the home that the couple would hate to lose. The value could be intrinsic or sentimental to the owners. It didn’t matter.

It turned out that there were objects of value that the couple would hate to lose, especially the husband. Jerry learned that Richard, the husband, had spent a few years in Japan serving in the U. S. Army. While there, he had acquired a collection of porcelain dolls that he had shipped back home. The dolls had increased in value through the years. In addition Richard acknowledged he would hate to lose them because of their sentimental value.

He had enjoyed his time in Japan and his porcelain collection was a happy reminder of his days in the peacetime army.

Jerry closed by saying that for $300 now and $30 a month he would assure that his porcelain dolls and everything else in the house would be protected in case of an attempted burglary. Richard said it was kind of expensive and the monthly would add up. After a few feeble attempts to complete the sale, Jerry started to pack up his papers in preparation for leaving.

Jerry had done a reasonable job until this point, but he couldn’t close the sale. This was obviously his problem. There is a classic book on the subject by Elmer G. Leterman called, “The Sale Begins When The Customer Says No.” Jerry was quitting before the sale had even begun.

It was my job to help Jerry improve so I couldn’t just leave with him, so close to making the sale. Also, as an observer, it was obvious to me that Richard really liked his collection that reminded hm of his carefree days in Japan. And there was a part of him that wanted to protect his collection. So I said, “Richard, I’m curious: when you were in Japan what happened that made you want to take those dolls home?”

In all honesty, I don’t remember his answer but he went on for 15 minutes excitedly recounting his adventures in Japan. When he was finished, he turned to Jerry and said, “You know, I would hate to lose those dolls. Let’s write up the order.”

My question reminded him of his adventures years ago in Japan, and he connected his porcelain collection with those experiences. A few hundred dollars was a small price to pay to preserve those memories. Sometimes a good question is all you need to help a prospect sell himself.

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